I feel as if we have been on the receiving end of crap lately. People are going out of their way to be quite ignorant in their way of handling things.
Now I understand that in my general area, people are upset by the fact that the beautiful summer months started in rains and floods and just continued raining with so-so weather. The lack of Vitamin D and the bright glow of sunshine may have something to do with it.
However, I have noticed more aggressive behavior by people needing to be jerks without really having the full story or the truth. I have noticed more people being ignorant in what they share online without really finding out the reality or even knowing if what they are sharing is actually real at all.
It always gets me how we always need to find conflict in everything, like it is our life’s ambition to do so. There is no problem, so let’s create some.
The truth of the matter is; life is beautiful if you let it. If you simply turn off the crap and avoid ignorant people as much as possible, you can get through most of your day without feeling annoyed, confronted or even angry. For some of us this is a problem when we can’t stay away from such people.
The problem lies having to go out into society and interacting with people who cut you off knowingly uncaring as long as it serves their purpose. My husband calls it the land of people who think the world owes them something. And I have to agree sometimes, when someone cuts the line ignoring the fact that they just did it as if you are non-existent. I have to admit the mother in me would like to find their parents and tell them what an awful job they did at teaching their kids common courtesy, however, I have seen people my age and older act the same.
The people who glare at you as you smile back. The people who accuse of wrong doing without checking their part or role in it to begin with. Everyone is right while everyone is wrong. If something does not suit you, simply discard it and the entire world is all subject to being victims somehow. We have delete and block buttons because people somehow do not know how to express themselves with politeness and simplicity instead of the verbal diarrhea of whatever comes out of their brains without thinking.
No one wants to lift a hand to work or even have pride in the work they do. Frankly, sometimes it feels real easy in my own work to be super-efficient when others try so little. I don’t feel the bar is raised awfully high for achievement.
I wish people would somehow work to better themselves.
To set goals when no one else does.
To be nice to each other even when you don’t especially feel like it.
To have something to say other than when it’s something negative.
To smile at people who smile at you.
To really think before sharing false stuff, or accusing people of bad behavior.
To work things through or at least try when times get hard, and to stop acting the victims especially when they are the cause of it to begin with.
Life gets hard sometimes. It’s not all a soap opera and you need to suck it up and move forward without making it into a drama over a broken nail every single time.
To have pride in your work and try to do a good job.
However, having my YouTube channel, I’ve realized that misery sells a lot better than happiness and making the best of it.
Because instead of striving to make things better, you can feel better about yourself because someone has it harder, and that stuff sells!
I know my rant here does not match my title very much thus far, but I guess I’ve been mulling these thoughts over in the past week an awful lot and have come to these few conclusions.
I always want to work at my best and be proud of my work, regardless of whether it’s my dream job or not.
I will try to smile when I don’t feel like it (still working on this one sometimes).
I will try to see the other side of the story instead of jumping the gun.
I will not share propaganda.
I will continue posting the very best side of our lives on YouTube cause frankly when I think of any generation of mine watching these, I would be mortified to see them watching me whine about my life when we have every opportunity to live a good one.
So leave me a smile, a happy thought, something that made you happy recently and be part of the movement of caring sharing people we can all be.
Does it always seem like you have to work 5 times harder than anyone else on the planet to get ahead?
Do you want to give up almost every day because you figure you are just too damn tired and not getting anywhere?
You keep working to get half of what the complainers and whiners get and you have had enough.
It’s normal to get frustrated.
Feel like you are going uphill? Yes I know how that feels too.
Are you different than the crowd? Do you do things your way? Does that cause you problems sometimes?
If you have replied yes to any of these, you might be an individual who is beyond the crowd. A one of a kind sort of person.
Is it difficult not to fit into the norm of society? Yes, sometimes it is.
Do you know that some of the most successful people failed, were rejected and turned down? Take Walt Disney for example who was once accused of “lacking imagination and having no good ideas” by a newspaper editor.
Feel alone in the world of feeling like a failure. Don’t. You are in good company. Most successful people have felt or have in fact failed a few times before making it.
What is different with them from the rest of the world?
They prevailed. They did not give up. They believed in themselves or their inventions/designs etc when nobody else did.
Keep believing you can do it. The only time you really fail is when you give up on yourself.
Don’t give up on your dreams.
What happens when you suddenly find yourself back tracking? This would be the umpteenth time for me since the beginning of this journey almost 2 years ago (will be 2 years in October).
Last year, my husband’s car crapped out and we suddenly had to find $3000. It was not that bad since we were still kind of high in debt (about $25000), and it hurt less to back track a bit, but this time around, we were almost out of debt. $2400 left to pay and bam… A few things happened to set us back.
First you get the wind knocked out of you. Then you get a little discouraged. Then you review the situation and look at it from a different point of view.
My mom’s partner of 11 years died. She is grieving deeply and I wanted to be there for her, knowing how tough this situation would be for anyone. So I booked a flight out and went to see her for a week. Although I had some extra vacation time, it still spelled out an amount $1800 extra when all was said and done. I’m in Canada —-She is in Texas.
Then while I was away, hubby found a car for my youngest. When the boys graduated, our gift to them was to be a new/used car that they could use to get out there and make their way with jobs and such. To give them a chance at starting with some help. In the area we live in, they need transportation to get to work, being that the next village of any size in any direction is about 25 minutes by car. My older son inherited my old Cavalier when I changed it for a Jeep, so that was easy, but my younger son was to inherit my older son’s newer Cavalier that he had bought himself (and we were buying off of him) and was changing up for a truck. The car had some issues and was really uncomfortable for my younger son, so he was uninterested in the car.
Last weekend my husband found a car for him that was both certified, e-tested and tested by my younger son for comfort. He loved it but now we had to find $2200 + tax for this expense. While the price for this 2009 is really not extravagant. The timing is not helping our debt repayment. And while we can probably sell the other car that was supposed to be his, we still need to get some repairs done and the car sold before we can make any money if any.
And lastly, we had been doing a bunch of work on my Jeep. We have had it for 5 years and put barely anything in it. It’s had breaks all around done, struts, shocks, tie rods and links. Because it was so out of whack it wore the tires all wrong making that the ones on it no longer safe for me to be driving on.
So finally, we had to buy some new tires after all that work and since they are not free as well, we suddenly ended up with another amount to pay.
Now for you die-hards Dave Ramseyers, you would say “why didn’t you get a sinking fund?” or “an emergency fund?” Well we did start out with an emergency fund, but with all the repairs to the truck we were doing, it quickly disappeared and being so close to the end of our debt, I figured we could get there and then take care of the bills without replenishing it.
But I should have known that Murphy’s Law would not let me get away with that. So our $2400 suddenly jumped up to $6500.
Here is where I would insert an unhappy face 😔 Unhappy but really not feeling that bad all in all. Disappointed that I won’t get to the finish line as anticipated, but then I started thinking of these expenses. Were they frivolous and unfounded? No. Had we been really good and tightened our belts in the course of the last 2 years. Absolutely Yes.
Hopefully it will be the last time I have to put anything back on credit because technically I should be able to pay anything I spend off within a month or two from now on or right on the spot when I start having money in the bank which will be a whole new experience for us.
So we now have an 8 week countdown to the end again. Tomorrow will spell the end of week 1. It’s really not that long if you think about it or it could be the longest 8 weeks you’ll ever experience (depending on how you feel). Regardless, it needs to be done and so we will try try again.
In the end, that is all you can really do.
How do you handle failure or set-backs?
It’s important to realize that life will throw you curve balls. Sometimes some pretty big ones.
Changes that can be handled in a moment and others that will take time to deal with.
Regardless of which one you might have to go through I like to deal with all my situations head on. Putting things off until later could cause the situations to just get worse. So take it, make it yours (only if it is yours, there is no need to take on the world’s problems), fix it if you can, handle it if there is no choice and then let them go and move on or try to.
There are few reasons why I like handling stuff this way.
1) The faster you deal with it, the faster it may go away.
2) I like moving forward and dealing with stuff helps you do without having to turn back to deal with something you put off (that may only make your life worse later).
3) No matter how bad the situation, you will eventually move on. Life will continue and you along with it. Dealing and healing is the only way to make sure that the rest of your life does not stay in the shadows of problems or hurt.
Change happens whether it’s good or bad. The only thing that is a certainty is that things will always change. The best thing you can do is try to roll with the punches. Be grateful when it’s a good change, and let yourself deal with the bad ones.
The other thing I would recommend about changes that you can control somewhat is that you are organized when they come. That way you can implement them with minimum effort. On the flip side I would also recommend you don’t get involved in drama where change likes to reside and it’s usually not for the better, but change that throws your life into flux often with no real value at the end. Stay away from people who create dramatic change for there are often other reasons behind the changes they bring on and it has little to do with self-growth.
The reason I write about this today is that in the last little while, I have been dealing with changes. Some that I have brought on, some that were added to my life and even some that may throw my life in a bit of twirl for a while.
Having the right mind set and being prepared has greatly eased the moments and I feel great when I finally manage to get past another hurdle or figure out things to get me on the right road again.
Whether you are an expert at change or stumble at dealing with it, just remember, it’s better to deal with it clumsily instead of sweeping it aside or letting others try to deal with your problems for you.
And try not to anticipate changes too much before they happen because you may cause yourself some unneeded stress before the event may or may not happen. That is usually called “fearing or expecting the worst”.
And lastly, try to see some changes as good things, for they may offer growth in ways you may never have thought of. Just look at you today as opposed to five years ago. Has a lot changed? Has it not? Are you a better version of yourself?