So easy to say, not so easy to do. I know. Especially when letting go of people. Things are something different, they have no feelings as for people, you always want to give them another chance. Always want to see the best in them. Only problem is that the ones you let go are going around in circles and keep doing the same crap over and over again. Sometimes teaching others to get caught in the same trap.
You can see them only sporadically and when you do they are still doing and saying the same stuff.
They are stuck in their pattern and just won’t let go and it’s not your job to make them see or to help them let go. It’s your job to preserve your own peace of mind.
You heart sometimes wants to do stuff that will bring them back around, and from past experience, I have realized that this is a practice in futility.
The truth of the matter is, you and them are different people and you don’t mesh. That’s all. You have your ways that you are happy with and they have theirs and that’s OK.
The best way to move past is to move on. Look for like-minded people and spend more time with them.
If you need to see someone that irks you. Keep the meetings to a minimum and don’t engage more than is needed.
Don’t be shy when you feel yourself getting fed up or tired of the same old stuff. Remove yourself or find a reason to show them the door.
It’s not pretty or perfect but it is what it is, and that is self preservation. Preserving your inner peace is so much more important than you know. It gives you time and energy to focus on other things that you need to be doing instead of getting involved in the drama of their lives.
The benefits are mostly to your health. The less you hold on to chaos and disruption in your life, the less stress you will have to face and the better you will be.
So get to it and keep your positive energy and people and push out the rest. You can simply tell them honestly or practice excuses if you need to or have your go-to people that can get out of a tough situation when there is a chance meeting that puts you in a corner. The most important thing is to get out of any toxic situation to you as quickly as you can to minimize the damage. Some things can never be fixed. They are not a toaster.
The most important is to get away from the drama. Once you clean that out of your life, it makes it easier to have a clearer perspective of what needs to be done to improve your life.